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Gay dating tips

by Heather Morris 11. February 2011 18:09

Going on a date this week? We present our most important basic tips for you. Don't forget about any of these points, and have a great date!

1. Scrub up nicely

Look your very best - no excuses. Clean and polished shoes? In. Scruffy trainers - definitely out. There's no need to go mad and spend money you don't have - but a new pair of smart jeans or a clean cut shirt can dramatically improve your overall appearance. Charity shop chic might be cool but not on a first date - you're out to impress.

2. Don't forget the hair and makeup

Get down to the hairdressers. Tell them you're going on a date - you might get special treatment!

Ever had a proper barbers' shave? Date day could be a good time to try - it's relaxing and can sooth last-minute nerves not to mention leaving you looking and feeling fab.

Moisturise, morning, noon and night on the day before your first date. You'll wake up with your skin looking its best.

Apply any skin products such as concealer carefully and don't forget to check yourself in a couple of mirrors in different lights.

3.  Get a job

Seriously, we're much more fanciable if we're gainfully employed - no matter the profession! You need to be a man with a plan to gain a new fan. Ambition and motivation and hugely desirable qualities.

4. Gen up

Make sure you're aware of what's happening in the world. Read the papers. Watch the news. And I don't just mean the celeb pages. Educate yourself - you'll find yourself at home wherever your date night convo leads you. Intelligence is sooo sexy.

5. Go easy on the booze

It's your first date - you've got the jitters - we've all been there. But keep an eye on what you're drinking this first night - nobody wants to deal with a slobbering wreck at the end of the night. While we're on the subject your local gay bar probably isn't the best venue for your first date. A quiet restaurant might improve the atmosphere.

6. Manners maketh the man

Don't be late. If you absolutely must be late, text with a reason why! Don't expect your date to pay for all the drinks and food. Keep your potty mouth for a night out with the lads - your man doesn't want to hear how good you are at swearing tonight. Keep it romantic. Be kind, polite, and listen to what your man has to say.

7. Pack in smoking.

Just do it.

8. Listen

Talk, sure. But listen too. You might just learn something! Ask questions to draw out interesting aspects of your man's life, in a gentle way. Be appreciative of his opinions. If you find yourself in vehement disagreement, steer the conversation away. He'll understand!

9. Don't expect sex on your first date

You might be lusting after him and horny as hell. But if he's worth seeing, it's worth waiting for. You are capable of waiting!

10. Stay safe

Don't end up as another statistic - obey the basic gay dating rules - meet in a public place. Tell someone where you're going. Go home in a cab - not his car.

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Space for serendipity

by Adam Clark 11. November 2010 16:50
Adam Clark

Gay Life Coach Adam Clark

I recently heard an interview with Joe Wright, the director of the film Atonement. He was being interviewed by Francine Stock for BBC Radio 4. One of the things she asked him about was the remarkable mock-up of the Dunkirk evacuation.

Those of you who have seen the film, will, I am sure, have been impressed by this shot. It involved over 2,000 extras on Redcar beach playing the remnants of the British and French armies waiting to be evacuated in the late spring of 1940 as Hitler's army advanced through France. The film includes an amazing take lasting more than five minutes where the camera weaves through the soldiers as they find ways to pass their time on the beach, waiting for the boats to come that will, hopefully, take them to safety. Wright explained how he set up the shot. He left the extras to improvise much of what was caught on camera. He set the camera rolling, and then, just as he started filming, the clouds parted to let through an eerie milky light that gave the scene a particularly chilling quality. Wright admitted that he couldn't have made lighting conditions like that happen. When talking about the shot, he described how he had to do a lot of preparation, but how this was just a safety net to allow space for what he called serendipity. He explained how he had to have faith that the scene would work. He didn't take credit for the wonderful light, but enjoyed how it transformed the scene.

Joe Wright's interview got me thinking about serendipity. The word was coined by Horace Walpole in the 18th Century to describe the effect by which one accidentally discovers something fortunate, especially while looking for something else. Walpole was said to have invented the word having read a Persian fairy tale called The Three Princes of Serendip. In this story, the three eponymous princes were set tasks, but made clever or accidental discoveries along the way that brought them unsought rewards.

Following the example of the Princes of Serendip, Joe Wright did the preparation for his epic shot and then left the rest to chance, trusting that things would work out well. I think that we, in our everyday lives, need to learn to leave space for those magical, chance happenings. For serendipity.

How to make space for those magical, chance happenings

1. Ditch the distractions

Many of us lead lives that are packed with activity. We are bombarded with information and find it difficult to cope with the sheer volume of information thrown at us. I believe the first step in making space for chance happenings is cutting down this clutter. For example if you have constantly to struggle to keep your inbox clear of spam, change your email address and let only those you want to contact you know what it is. And be careful what you sign up to receive. In the last month, three of my clients have told me that they've deleted their Facebook profiles. There's nothing wrong with Facebook per se, but the sheer volume of distracting emails and contacts it was creating for them had become oppressive. They created more space and time for themselves by freeing themselves from it.

2. Be still

It's important to spend at least some of the day being still. I start the day with a series of exercises that involve with me lying on the floor, sensing my body and noticing my breathing. Even this morning, when I had to leave the house at 6:15am for an early morning meeting, I spent a few minutes on the floor stilling myself. Experiment with being still at different times of the day, note the effects, and see which works best for you.

3. Stimulate your imagination

The raw material for my writing is the experiences I have of life. But living life is not enough if I'm to be imaginative and novel in my work. I need to spend some time each day reading and making notes from books on psychology and wellbeing. I'm now in the habit of spending ten minutes stimulating my imagination in this way every morning before I start my work for the day, even if I've got lots to do. It's a question of priorities; my work all seems more manageable if I've first read extracts from an author whose writing I respect. But it's a discipline to make myself do this, especially when the tasks of the day are pressing.

4. Make time for the things that give you energy

One of my clients is a wonderful yoga teacher. She is also an astute business woman and a lovely person. My coaching with her has taken the opposite course to that I would have expected. Instead of helping her to come up with goals for herself, and holding her to account, I've recently been helping her to let go of goals. She is tremendously self-disciplined and very conscientious. However in the busy-ness of her life, she no longer had time to practise yoga on her own. She needed to give up some of the things she was doing so that she could spend a few minutes three or four times a week doing yoga on her own. For all of us, it's important to ensure we have time for the things that feed and stimulate us. Think about the things you love doing, that you can lose yourself in. What can you do to make sure you have time for more of them?

5. Let go

When you've done the preparation for something, it's important to let go. Trust yourself that you will do it, and do it well. If you're plagued by doubt, learn to let go of the fantasy that things are bound to go wrong. You can learn to be more optimistic. You can learn to leave space to chance. To those wonderful unexpected happenings that make being a human being such a rich experience. To serendipity.

Adam Clark

Adam Clark is 38 and lives with his partner of 19 years in Wimbledon. Through Gay Life Coach he has helped hundreds of people to bring about sustained changes in their lives. Those he has worked with have praised the way he has built their confidence and helped them through difficult times.

Adam offers a free initial coaching consultation. You can contact him on 07947 959869 or through his website www.gaylifecoach.co.uk

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Good companions

by Adam Clark 11. October 2010 16:46

For me, one of the most exciting developments in the field of psychology has been the growth in recent years of interest in wellbeing and happiness. Until the mid 1990s, most of the academic study of psychology tended to focus on people’s problems. Now there are a number of well-respected academics who study wellbeing and seek to draw lessons from what makes those who lead happy lives so content.

From my reading of these studies, it seems that the single most important factor in wellbeing, happiness and, indeed, good health, is a connection with a good circle of friends. Those who enjoy such warm, human relationships, and especially those who are blessed with a loving relationship with an intimate partner, fare better on all measures of wellbeing than those who go through life alone.

Some of my clients lead lives that would be the envy of many, with fantastic jobs and a high income. Despite the challenge, responsibility and money that come through their work, some of these people come home to an empty flat every night, where they can end up feeling miserable and isolated.

I am convinced that the most important priority should be our relationships with those around us. No matter how extraordinary our lives, or our accomplishments, or even our dreams, we need trusted confidants to share them with. We thrive on people around us with whom we can cry, dance, laugh and love. I am blessed with a partner who loves me and delights in sharing his life with me. I dedicate this article to him, and to my parents, who celebrate their ruby wedding anniversary this week.

Gay couple
Friendship is so important

Making friends… and keeping them

1. Do things

Shared activity is a good way to meet people, and to see them as they really are. Taking part in some form of activity is the best way I know of to widen your circle of friends, or to meet a potential partner. Think about your hobbies and interests. What can you do that’s related to your interests that might bring you into contact with other people? Are there any societies or clubs you could join? What about classes or courses? If you’re in a relationship or have some good friends, arrange to do things together. Shared activity is one of the most important ways in which we bind ourselves to other people.

2. Be interested

One of Dale Carnegie’s ways of winning friends and influencing people is to ask others questions, and to be genuinely interested in their answers. Most people like talking about themselves so asking questions is a good way to get to know a stranger. It’s also important in our more intimate relationships; we can so easily drift into assuming that we know what our partner thinks, wants or likes. When was the last time you asked them? You might be surprised at the response.

3. Be kind

It saddens me when I see people putting down those they love. It seems to be a bad habit that it’s easy to get into. Even when we do favours for people, we can sometimes do them with bad grace. Paulo Coelho talks about the concept of a Favour Bank. If we’ve made deposits in the form of kindness and favours for other people, when we need something, others are more likely to give us what we need. This builds mutual trust and respect, the glue that binds people together, whether they are partners or friends. What can you do today to be kind to those you love, and those you’d like to know better?

4. Encourage others to make the most of who they are

We all know people who seem incapable of sharing our dreams, people who are stuck in negative mindsets and ways of seeing the world. Your true friends are those who genuinely want the best for you. What can you do to encourage those you know to blossom and fulfil their potential?

Gay couple
Encourage others to make the most of who they are

5. Develop your passions

Passionate people are interesting. They always have something to say, and to share with the world. We lose ourselves when we engage in activity we feel passionate about. Even if you’re very busy, take a few minutes to think about what you believe in most strongly. What can you do to express these passions?

Friends and relationships really do matter. Don’t kid yourself that you can put things off because you’re really busy at the moment. Do something today to connect with those you love, or to meet other people. Life is so much better when it’s shared. With good companions.

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Bouncing Back

by Adam Clark 20. September 2010 19:07
Gay Life Coach Adam Clark

Gay Life Coach Adam Clark

Many of those who write about personal happiness and fulfilment promote the myth that if you do things correctly, you can have, or be, anything you want. It’s rare to hear from such people that sometimes things don’t go your way. But we all live in the real world. We know that no matter how hard we try, how positive our outlook or how strong our belief, sometimes things just don’t work out the way we want them to.

How we respond to setbacks and disappointment is, I believe, the true measure of our character. It’s easy to trust the universe to supply your needs when things are going well. But what about when they’re not?

I offer below my tips for building resilience, so that you can learn how to bounce back from whatever setbacks may befall you.

May 2010 be a good year for you.

Tips for building your resilience

1. Take responsibility

The first step is to recognise that you have choices. You can decide to take responsibility for how you react to the situation you find yourself in. Try to be constructive rather than letting it get to you, and spending your energy blaming other people or yourself. The more responsibility you take for the situation you find yourself in, even if the fact that you are there may not be your fault, the more likely it is that you’ll find ways to overcome it.

2. Look at things you can do something about

There is no point wasting time and energy on things that you cannot change. I was one of the festival goers at Glastonbury last year. We couldn’t change the fact that it was raining. But we could, and did, decide not to let the rain get us down. We found activities that were under cover and sheltered from the rain. It would have been nice to lounge around a bit more in sunshine, but sunshine was in short supply that weekend!

3. Act

So often action is the best way to deal with feeling trapped or frustrated. Many of those I work with are prone to over-analysing things. They spend so much energy predicting and planning possible outcomes in their heads. What they discover is that when they get on with doing something, they break the spell their thoughts have over them. If you’re in a difficult situation, what’s the first thing you could do to get yourself out of it? When you’ve identified what it is, just do it.

4. Keep things in perspective

When we’re disappointed or frustrated, it’s easy for things to seem larger or more powerful that they actually are. We taunt ourselves with thoughts that “this always happens to me”, or that it’s “typical”. The reality is likely to be more nuanced. If we can take a deep breath, step back and look in on the situation, we can sometimes see that things aren’t as bad as they seem.

5. Persevere

I’m always impressed with people who keep on plugging away, despite setbacks. Just because a date hasn’t worked out, for example, doesn’t mean that you’re destined always to be alone. The fact that someone hasn’t responded to your call may not mean they don’t want to speak to you. It may just have slipped their mind. Give it another try. Don’t give up!

Resilience is a wonderful asset. The ability to bounce back is one of the characteristics of people who make the most of their lives. Resolve today to be resilient and bounce back whenever life presents its inevitable challenges.

Adam Clark

Adam Clark is 38 and lives with his partner of 19 years in Wimbledon. Through Gay Life Coach he has helped hundreds of people to bring about sustained changes in their lives. Those he has worked with have praised the way he has built their confidence and helped them through difficult times.

Adam offers a free initial coaching consultation. You can contact him on 07947 959869 or through his website www.gaylifecoach.co.uk

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New Years Resolutions

by Adam Clark 31. December 2007 18:20

The end is the beginning

My approach to New Year's resolutions is to forget about the first of January. Instead of focusing on what I want to do at the beginning of the year, I find it much more powerful to look at how I'd like my life to be different by the end of the year. How would I like things to be on 31 December 2008? What are the steps I should take to get there? What are the milestones along the way?

It's all part of beginning with the end in mind. I think this is a fantastic approach to life. If we all thought about how we were going to conclude things before we started them, we would save ourselves a lot of grief. I outline a five-step guide to New Year's resolutions below.

Make time over the next few days to think about how you'd like your life to be in one year's time. Work out what you need to do to get there. Believe you can do it, and enjoy the journey!

New Year's resolutions

1. What are the areas of your life you'd like to be different?

Where are you in your relationships? How are things with those closest to you? How could they be different? What can you do to help bring changes about? How are things at work? How could they be different? What about your health? And the way you use your time? Be bold in the way you look at things. If you were really true to yourself, what would that mean in practical terms for your life?

Man at new year
New year can be a time for reflection
and planning as well as partying and boozing

2. Plan your year

Bearing in mind what you've come up with, what are the steps you need to take along the way to get there? If you want to be in a loving relationship by the end of the year, what should you be doing in January to help bring this about? If you'd like to be 5 kilos lighter next Christmas, what should you weigh by June? If you'd like to have a new job, how should you be using your free time in the spring?

3. Be clear

Sometimes it's easier to hide behind general statements such as I want my flat to be tidier. If you want to have a tidier home by the end of 2006, what, specifically, do you need to do? Make a list of all the things you need clear up. There may be papers in your living room, magazines you've been meaning to read and foodstuffs you never use. Be clear about what you're going to do and when you'll do it. This is more challenging, but you're much more likely to succeed.

4. Believe

Believe you can do it. Make yourself comfortable, relax and imagine your life as you'd like it to be. What does it look like? How does it feel? How do you look? Seeing these things in your imagination helps you to bring them about. If you expect to succeed, your subconscious will be alert to the signals that confirm you in this expectation, thus reinforcing the likelihood of a positive outcome.

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Give your life a little thought this Christmas

5. Learn from your mistakes

Don't see your set backs as failure. You can always learn from them. If you've managed to have three weeks without smoking, for example, and then find yourself smoking at a party, don't depress yourself with the thought that you're back at square one. You had those three weeks as a non-smoker. What did you do during that time that helped you not to smoke? What could you do to lessen the likelihood of smoking again when next you find yourself at a party? Opinions differ as to how many attempts Thomas Edison took to make the prototype light bulb. Some say he had 200 attempts, some 500, some 700. The important thing was his attitude. He persevered. When asked how he managed to keep on going after so many failures, he reportedly said “I didn't fail; I just discovered 700 ways how not to do it.”

Use a few hours over the next few days to think about your life and where you are going. Make 2008 different and enjoy the changes!

Adam Clark

Adam Clark is 38 and lives with his partner of 19 years in Wimbledon. Through Gay Life Coach he has helped hundreds of people to bring about sustained changes in their lives. Those he has worked with have praised the way he has built their confidence and helped them through difficult times.

Adam offers a free initial coaching consultation. You can contact him on 07947 959869 or through his website www.gaylifecoach.co.uk

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Gay dating wish list

by Jo Hemmings 14. August 2007 19:09
Gay guy with crossed fingers

To maximize your chance of finding the perfect person, it’s vital to know both what you want and what you have to offer. Having too long a ‘shopping list’ will leave you as unfulfilled as having a scattergun approach, where you haven’t set any criteria.

Sometimes it helps to actually write a wish list down.  Dividing your wants and expectations into ‘must-haves’ e.g. solvency, wants/doesn’t want children, lives within easy distance etc. and ‘would like if possible but accept it might just be a bonus’ is a useful exercise.

These are some of the factors that you might want to consider:

1.  Do you want him or her to be your best friend as well as your partner?

2.  Are you looking for long-term commitment or something else?  Is he/she?

3.  Do you want to be able to laugh at the same things? 

4.  If looking for commitment and want a family some time, could you imagine having a family?

5.  What level of independence do you want to retain or are you looking for a 24/7 togetherness?

6.  Is it important that your libidos match?

7.  Could you cope with, or want, a relationship where monogamy is not an issue?

8.  Do you want complete devotion or would jealousy see you heading for the hills?

9.  Do you want ruthless ambition and drive in a partner or would just career ‘go with the flow’ suit you best?

10.   Do you want/need someone on your intellectual or cultural level?

11.   Do you want someone your sort of age or would older or younger appeal more/not matter?

12.   Is immediate chemistry critical or do you believe that it can develop in time?

13.   Do you mind/want a smoker?  A drinker?  Or a gym junkie?

Jo Hemmings
Dating coach Jo Hemmings explains

Be realistic about yourself

Tough though it can be, it’s an invaluable exercise to stand back and take an honest look at yourself.  How desirable are you, how attractive, what kind of partner is likely to go for you?  It’s worth drafting in a really close mate to help with this.  Someone you really trust.  It might seem a bit awkward at first, and it’s often helps to have a platonic friend to give you a few honest answers!

You need to ask them a series of questions.  And you’ll need to be prepared for answers you might not want or expect.  Try some of these for size:

1.   Do you think I’m attractive to other guys?  On a scale of one to ten.  What could I do to improve this?

2.   Do you think I’m sexy?  Ditto re scale, ditto re improving the situation.

3.  Am I fun to be with?

4.  Do I seem outgoing or shy?

5.  Do I dress well?  Do my clothes suit me? Am I bright? Well read?

6.  Do I flirt?  Too much, too little?

7.  Do I seem too interested or too distant?

8.  Do I seem relaxed when I meet a guy?

9.  Am I too full on or too passive?

You get the drift...  It will not always be pleasant, but it should help adjust your perspective and self-image a little.  If the responses are exactly what you expected, then try someone else, because they’re probably just saying what they think you want them to say.  This is a cruel to be kind exercise, not a mutual back-scratching event. However if the answers are too harsh and it’s probably time to change your mates!

Ask yourself the following questions too – it will help you see what you have to offer a potential partner:

1.  Am I realistic in what I’m looking for? Being too demanding or narrow in your expectations will not only bring disappointment with your datees, as I have mentioned, it may also explain why you have trouble dating in the first place.  Take a little time to look beyond someone’s bank balance or looks or body and you may be pleasantly surprised.  Or you may not, in which case it will reinforce your wish list, which is fine.  But if you’re 40 and you’re looking for someone no older than 30, with all those other desirable qualities too, then you may discover that they’re tougher to find.

2.  Are you interesting to spend time with? How are your conversational skills?  Do you read a daily paper and watch the news?  Or is the limit of your conversation restricted to the soaps?  Are you passionate about a hobby or your work?  Can you convey this without being boring or dull?  Do you ask questions because you have genuine interest in someone else or simply because you want to size them up?  Do you listen well – giving people a chance to say their bit or do you interrupt and butt in all the time with your views?

3.  Are you financially independent? You don’t have to be rich or flash with your money, but managing your money wisely gives you confidence and allows you to see your date as a person rather than a meal ticket.  Dating a wealthy partner is great, but see it as a bonus rather than a goal.  If a partner thinks you are after them for their money, they will be guarded from the start.

4.  Are you independent? Do you have goals and aspirations that are your own and not dependent on someone else.  Goals that are not just finding a partner to be with, but goals for yourself – learning a foreign language, becoming the boss or running the marathon.  These goals are not the same thing as having hobbies – these are major aspirations that you want to work and aim for, for your own personal self esteem.  It shows ambition and drive as well as independence and is often very attractive to a prospective partner as well as fulfilling for you.

5.  Do you live for the present? While looking to the future and making plans is an essential part of life, dreamy people who always think the grass is greener just around the corner do not make easy company.  Enjoying today and taking life one step at a time can often make you a much more relaxed person.  It’s a liberating feeling just to free yourself for an evening or a week or two from what might lie ahead.  Just think how good you feel when you’re on holiday.  It’s even worse if you hang on to your emotional past for too long.  It can make you cynical, mistrustful and just allows anyone who had the ability to hurt you in the past, to carry right on doing it.  Move on – to the present.

6.  Are you a positive person? Are you happy with your self-image?  Are you an optimist or a pessimist?  Do you grizzle and whine or tackle your problems head on, one at a time?  Happiness and a healthy self-esteem are infectious and make people want to become part of your life.  Negative people create just the opposite effect. Work out what makes you happy and go for it.  Accept compliments with good grace and a smile.  Not suspicion or a quick ‘thanks, but...’.  Learn to recognise and capitalise on your strengths and work on your weaknesses.

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Photo tips

by Heather Morris 21. July 2006 12:30

Perfect profile photos

We present tips to make the best possible use of your photos - make maximum impact and improve your dating success!

A great portrait photo
Looking straight into the camera and smiling - everything a great portrait photo should be

Question. Why should I have a photo? I thought personality was more important?

Answer. Members are 15 times more likely to look at your profile if it has a photo attached. Why get passed by?

Your portrait photo

Your portrait photo is the most important photo you have, because it appears not just on your profile but in many other places on-site as well. So ...

Keep it simple with a clear shot of your face, remembering not to include anyone else.

Smile - it costs nothing but will show you're friendly and approachable.

Do not wear sunglasses or a hat!! Members will think you are hiding!!

Example of blurred photo
Blurred photos won't focus much attention on you!

Make sure your photo is of high enough resolution so we can crop it down to size. 80kbs just isn’t enough!

If possible, use a proper camera - a digital camera is best. Try not to use a phone to take your picture because the quality is rarely good enough.

Additional photos

Additional photos appear only on your personal profile. These photos tell everyone who you really are. Here are our tips.

Pick a photo that you think will draw members in to look closer.

Photo of man cooking in kitchen
I like cooking! Here's a great profile photo

Try to take a photo with a background that might reflect your hobbies or personality. Drinking coffee in a bar with friends, fishing or playing the drums.

Try to pick a photo that will encourage someone to ask you a question about yourself. This will all go towards breaking the ice.


Include pictures that illustrate your personality, swimming with mates, the office party or at a wedding, as long as it isn’t your own.

Do include significant people in your life, like your family and friends.

Photo which has had an ex-partner removed 

Who's that girl? And what's she doing in your dating photo?

Look at the photos you are showing. Are they different, or are they all of you in the garden for example? The only thing this may say is, “I don’t get out much”.

Try to pick a photo that will encourage someone to ask you a question about it. This will all go towards breaking the ice.


Don't upload photos that has someone rubbed out in it. If you can’t find a photo without your ex in it, ask friends and family if they have a good one of you.

Don't upload out-of-date photos. Even if you were trendier in the 80's, clothes and hairstyles are a sure way of dating you.

Photo of man cooking in kitchen
An eye-catching photo but will it really attract the people you want to attract?

Don't upload any semi-naked photos of yourself. It may attract members, but not the sort you want! It probably won’t pass our reviewing process either.

Photo captions

The words used to describe your photos are just as important. Use them to sell yourself and tell your future partner what you are like. Try not to criticise yourself with negative captions.

‘No oil painting I’m afraid!’ and ‘I look awful in this photo’ will not encourage anyone to send a message.

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Gay dating safety

by Heather Morris 21. April 2006 20:04

Longing to meet someone you've been chatting to online? Got a first date lined up? Follow our commonsense dating safety advice tips and enjoy a fantastic date!

Meeting new people on the web is brilliant fun and one of the easiest ways to find romance. It makes to be aware of personal safety when you go on a date with somebody you are meeting for the first time.

  • Exchange a good few messages before meeting. You may feel you've 'clicked' immediately with someone - but the more you know about a date, the better.
  • Don't give out your phone number or address unless you're really, really sure. If you do want to call your date, remember our phone friends service offers a safe way to phone without disclosing your number. If you do ring someone, and you're asked to reverse the charges on a call, don't. Your number appears on their phone bill.
  • Arrange to meet in a public place. Do not invite your first date round to your place. Lunchtime dates are great fun, and if you're at work they give a perfect "get-out" excuse if things aren't going too well.
  • Do not accept a lift - make your own way there and back.
  • Do discuss the dress code before the date: there's nothing more embarrassing than dressing down when they've dressed up.
  • Above all, trust your own feelings. If you have doubts about somebody the obvious thing to do is not to meet with them - at least until they have put your mind at rest.

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What is Gay Dating Agency?

by Heather Morris 11. March 2005 16:24

What is Gay Dating Agency?

Have you ever fallen madly in love? Do you remember how it felt? Pretty amazing isn't it? Imagine the thrill of receiving a message from someone out there and thinking "Wow, this could be the one!".

This is how Gay Dating Agency works. We can't guarantee immediate success but you'll have more fun trying and more chance of success than you'll ever have by hanging around in bars or hoping you'll meet someone at work or through a friend.

Heart We're local

If you're looking for friendship, a relationship or encounter, you want to find someone who lives near you, right? So we are local. We have branches in most countries in the world and if you want, you can search the world over. But most people choose to use their local branch. In the UK you can use our innovative postcode search to find potential partners within a short distance of where you live.

Heart We're so easy to use

Whether you're a total Internet novice or an old hand - you can learn how to use the site in minutes.

Heart We're fun

Finding the right man should be fun, shouldn't it? After all, we do it to be happy. We don't ask any awkward questions or put up any barriers, we just let you get on with meeting people. It's the perfect way to spend the evening.

Heart Incredible value

You can try us out for free. We've loaded up our guest membership account with some really great free dating features. For example, if you're interested in someone - send them a kiss!

When you've seen somebody you want to contact, just upgrade to our amazing Club Membership service. Our prices are incredibly low so absolutely everybody can afford to find love.

Heart Serious about online dating

Wondering why we offer extra paid-for services? Simple: because we filter out people who are not serious about meeting their perfect partner.

The hidden downside of free dating sites is they are inundated with attached people looking for affairs, and all sorts of other timewasters. But here at Gay Dating Agency we have a friendly dedicated team devoted to ensuring that everyone we introduce you to is genuinely looking for a great long-term relationship.

Ladies - would you trust a girl who is not even prepared to spend a few pounds to meet you? When girls upgrade their account they are showing they are trustworthy and creditworthy. They are showing they do not mind our details appearing on their bank statements. And above all they are showing they are serious about meeting you.

Guys - what price meeting "the one"? We advise against using free dating sites if you really want to find somebody to share your future with. We'll introduce you to genuine guys who are serious about finding a man to share their lives with.

Heart All the tools you need

We provide top-of-the-range online dating features that really make your life easy. Here are just a few ...

  • Online real-time one-to-one chat - there's no better way to get to know somebody than with our superb online instant messenger service
  • Create a photo album to show the world who you really are, and view other members' photo galleries.
  • Edit your photos online - our unique online photo editor helps you present your photos in the best way possible.
  • Get message alerts sent direct to your mobile phone. Never miss another vital love message!
  • Who's popular? See the greatest profiles on-site and find out what makes a fantastic online dating profile.
  • Dating coaching - we work with the world's top dating and relationship experts to bring you free, essential dating tips and advice each and every month.
  • Many ways to search - search local or go global. It's up to you. We provide you with all the ways you need to find the right person quickly.

Heart Safety and confidentiality

The best thing about Gay Dating Agency is that it's a very, very safe way to meet people. You don't give away any more details than you feel comfortable with. You build up a relationship slowly by exchanging messages anonymously and using instant messaging. You find out each other without ever taking any personal safety risks.

Heart Friendly

Everybody involved with this site is dedicated to helping you have fun and find romance, and we are very proud of our reputation as being one of the friendliest services around.

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